It can often be hard and frustrating trying to teach a child who struggles with math. No matter what you do or how you teach a concept, they just seem to fight to grasp the concepts. I know that in those moments it can be easy to lose patience, or join them in their frustrations, but in the long run, saying the following when they are frustrated or struggling不会帮助他们。这里有一些常见的things you should never say to the child who struggles with math(or even a child who is good at math!).
So here are 5 things you should avoid saying (and what to say or do instead):
I know (because I’ve been there) that there are times when it can feel exhausting to fight the “math battle” again. But it’s not going to be beneficial for them to just “do it and get it over with.” If they’re just working through some problems in order to check it off the list for the day, they’re not actually thinking about what they’re doing. And likely, they’re not actually trying to understand or solve them correctly, they’re just trying toget it over with。
For a child who doesn’t understand mathematical procedures and algorithms, just going through the motions of working out a problem is not going to lead to conceptual understanding. So maybe instead, spend the same amount of time on fewer problems, and try to talk through the why. Or take a break from the formal math altogether and玩数学牌游戏！！
无论是Homeschool还是在帮助你的孩子的家庭作业中，如果你被教导要以特定方式解决问题，那么告诉他们这样做就会很诱人你的方式。事情是，有always more than one way to solve a math problem。And just because you might approach a problem differently, doesn’t mean your child thinks the same way or sees the question in the same way. Their approach may be completely valid, so don’t stifle them just because their thinking is different than your thinking.
And if they are attempting a method that you know will end in error? That’s ok too.错误是学习过程的一部分and it can be helpful for them in the long run if you just let them make some mistakes.
请不要只用你的孩子答案。这不会帮助他们学习或理解。如果你教你的孩子阅读，他们会在他们的知识中成长，如果你告诉他们所有的硬话，他们会在他们的知识中扩大他们的词汇吗？他们会在下次看到它的情况下认识或弄清楚这个艰难的词吗？我不是一位阅读老师，但我愿意打赌，如果我只是，我的儿子不会学会读或增长告诉他这个词every time he reads it wrong.
如果你的孩子在挣扎，让他们休息一下。鼓励他们继续向不同的问题转移并以后回到它。设置计时器可能会有所帮助，告诉他们如果他们不弄明白，那么他们必须至少在它上工作Xnumber of minutes (the length of time will vary depending on the age of your child). Or maybe it’s just a sign that they need to be done for the day! And sometimes, that’s ok too.
I had a math professor in college who would tell us all the time that our brains are still working even when we’re sleeping, so sometimes it is better for us to go to bed and be fully rested than to stay up all night fighting with a problem or a proof. I took her up on that advice many times, and I always felt less frustrated with the problem in the morning, and sometimes had a new idea to try and solve it!
- “You’re too slow.”
数学是关于识别模式，和learning to problem solve。是关于modeling life in the world around us with equations and formulas那and using those models to solve important problems. It’s not about being the fastest at computations. If it was simply about fast computing,不会因为需要学习数学e a calculator or computer can do that for us。
I know that sometimes kids are easily distracted, or they’re procrastinating or simply not doing their work (that’s a whole other issue). But if they are genuinely working, and trying, but it just takes them a little longer? That’s ok. Rushing will often lead to粗心的错误。所以让他们花时间。
Maybe today they struggle, and it seems like they will never ever get it, but明天灯泡熄灭了！！也许他们将长大成为一种激励的工程师或物理学家或医生或研究科学家，治愈癌症。Don’t discourage them before they’ve even had a chance to try。毕竟，爱因斯坦一直是一个挣扎的学生，even dropped out of school一时间。
So if your child is struggling and whining and hating math, simply smile and encourage them to press on anyway. Acknowledge that it is hard, and therewill likely be mistakes along the way，但是从努力工作和坚持不懈时都有很大的教训。
What do you think? Do you, or have you, said any of these things to your kids in the midst of their math angst?
Are there anyother你永远不应该对与数学斗争的孩子说的事情？
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